Relationships

How do you define your relationship and what are the most important parts of it? How do you deal with conflict? Weather your concern is about finances, starting or maintaining a family, housework or something else. Most major disruption in relationships are caused by the miss-alignment of core values.

Many times, we are carried along by the energy of being in a relationship, the newness, the “honeymoon stage” where all things seem to move in harmony. Or we get caught in a noncommittal, casual, “go with the flow” sort of relationship, and then become confused when things aren’t progressing.

While this may seem like a simple conclusion, you’d be surprised to know how little attention is placed on defining core values when developing a relationship. The lack of values and not connecting them with your choices and actions can lead to a cycle of failed relationships and heartache.

At Perspective counseling we focus first on getting a clear understanding of your own personal values in relationships and clearly define what you are looking for in a partner.

Recent break up

Being single after a breakup can be very hard. It’s important to spend some time getting to know yourself and what’s important to you. As you grow and mature, how have your values changed? Do you want the same things in a partner that you did five years ago? In therapy, we look at your past relationships and patterns to learn what you truly value in your life and in your relationships. And in the process take time to grow your self-confidence and autonomy.

Mending a current relationship

Shared values are the superglue of all relationships. The foundation is crucial for your relationship to grow and get better with time.

At Perspective Counseling we can help you to identify, understand and translate your core values. What you need and what you want in your relationship to help it sustain the test of time and disagreement. Creating a common language with the intention to further develop and strengthen your relationship. We work together to decipher between differences that can be accepted, differences that are complementary and differences that are deal breakers.

Being content in being single

In therapy we help you treasure the greater value in being single and finding yourself. We look at how to become whole outside of a relationship and how to make yourself happy. We identify and cultivate what makes you a person of value and what you see as valuable in others. Learning to celebrate yourself and in the process creating a solid foundation for when you’re ready to commit again.